Random thoughts on a Friday morning. The one at the top of my mind is that I have absolutely dick to complain about. There’s not much complaining or whining on RedheadWriting. I don’t likes it, preeeeeeecious…It’s useless. It’s energy better spent elsewhere. So while making my tea this morning, I started thinking about what’s awesome. I’m talking unicorns, rainbows and puppies awesome. On a side note, while searching for that image, I came across this one. I don’t know what in blue hell that is, but this one is pretty funny. Oh, and I also own this t-shirt. It’s bliss in a size medium.
Okay – back to the list. I’m going to run down five things that don’t suck today. They’re all things that might seem to suck on the surface, but if you turn your thinking inside out, they’re pretty much da bomb. And if you’re looking for a great tool for turning your thinking inside out, check out Hank Wasiak‘s Change the Way You See Everything. I was lucky enough to meet Hank back at SOBCon earlier this year, and this book has earned a permanent place on my bookshelf.
- Traffic: Ordinarily, traffic sucks balls. Hairy ones. Not sexy ones. It makes you late and nothing’s more annoying than the city shutting down two lanes on a three lane one-way street at 11am. Screw that angst. Traffic at a dead stop is a place to think, sing along with the radio, answer emails (yes, I’m THAT person), and…look out the window. I never realize how much I’ve missed in my life while driving from one place to another until I take the time to look out the window. Try it.
- Losing a client: There goes the cash flow, right? Screw that angst. Your schedule just opened up. If you loved the client, mayhaps you wouldn’t have lost ’em, so it’s time to think about the kinds of awesome that can fill that time. Make a list of everything you haven’t “had time” to do (aka put off doing because we love to make excuses). Now get it done. Go have coffee with colleagues, take a few mid-day bike rides and ask yourself what you missed. A new client will come along…or maybe you’ll find the time to dig deeper and lend more value to an existing one.
- Breaking up with a lover/divorce: Life ends, glitter stops falling from the sky and unicorns die. Elmo is no longer tickleable. Batman starts driving a Prius. I speak from vast experience on this one – when you sit on your ass, it only gets wider and a wider ass isn’t awesome. When you stop focusing on whatever that dead weight in your life needed, you can actually focus on what you need. Call your friends, get shitfaced drunk for the first time in six years (and remind yourself why cool porcelain and bathroom tile is soothing), have a yard sale and get moving. We tend to inadvertently place ourselves in these positions where we believe that everyone else is more important than we are. Yet when we stop taking care of ourselves, life goes to shit and we’re the ones who pay the price. Breakups are awesome.
- Being broke: Wondering how you’re going to pay the bills feels great, doesn’t it? If you spend your days avoiding your online banking login based on the principle that, “If I don’t look, it’s not so bad,” quit that shit. Being broke is one of the best teacher we have in life. When we can’t spend money on things, we have to get creative. How do I get what I want? Stop saying you can’t afford it. Start asking yourself, “How can I afford it?” And these ideas aren’t mine – pick up a copy of Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad, Poor Dad. It’s not the bible but it will shake-up how you look at your finances. (Another great read is – and again, NOT the bible – Stanley’s The Millionaire Next Door.) We’re only ever broke because of our own decisions. Start making decisions to get un-broke and you’ll look back at today in a year and go – Wow. I really started taking care of myself!
- Getting sick: Before you ask how the hell I’m going to spin this one, I’m already way ahead of you. Being sick has many unpleasantries associated with it. Snot, sore throat, coughing. Maybe it’s beyond that. Maybe you’re facing a critical illness. The gift inherent in being sick is we give ourselves permission to rest. Recharge. Our bodies ask for it, so we need to give it. And when we slow down, we look at life a bit differently. No matter who you are, you can always stand a dose of looking at life different and slowing down for one damn minute.
Choose to see something differently today. Bitch Slap yourself. Pull your head out of your ass. The best days in my life are those where I choose to see. And there’s something magical in seeing things differently. Go forth, slap thyself. Give yourself permission to have another.