I Have No Title

***please note updates to the post at 6:22 PM MST 9/15/10
On Monday, my community of readers read and widely circulated  The Bitch Slap: How to Date in Denver When You’re a D-Bag. They commented – on Facebook and the post itself – and I responded (as I always do). My comments policy is this: if it ain’t spam or stupid, salesy, self-promoting nonsensical crap, it gets posted. I don’t mind differing opinions and I love a good debate. My way isn’t the only way and I invite and encourage sharing of thoughts and ideas. I respond whether you agree or disagree. As of this morning, Mr. Hollenback still has not personally responded to the blog and has offered no response on Twitter. The Glendale Cherry Creek Chronicle has not responded to my letter to the editor, either (though someone there DID allegedly, who said it landed in their “cyber trash heap”). It sure makes a body wonder if The GCCC holds all of their readers and community members in such high regard. Notwithstanding evidence to the contrary, it would appear that this community newspaper considers Mr. Hollenback an asset. Hmmm.

I received what you’re about to read below in my inbox last night. After reading it, I asked two trusted colleagues for guidance. What should I do? Should I delete it, post it, ignore it, take a shower? I asked for their opinions and ideas about alternatives. I was against deleting it (in spite of its inherent venom). And they agreed.

The comment’s author is Don Wrege. If you click through to Mr. Wrege’s website (listed at the bottom of this post), you’ll see his company, MediaWhore, is somehow affiliated with Clear Channel (via KHOW 630AM). As is Mr. Hollenback (via – strangely enough – KHOW 630AM). Huh. MediaWhore is right there, one rung above Hollenback. (***please see notes below for an update***)

I’m not going to jump to any conclusions. I’m not going to make any assumptions. I’m not going to imagine or even remotely suspect that these two men actually know one another. After all, I’m female and dysfunctional (see Mr. Hollenback’s column referenced in Monday’s post). But I am confused. I’m wondering if Clear Channel condones this kind of rhetoric from their employees and affiliate stations. They have a pretty clear ZERO TOLERANCE policy (clearly spelled-out on their website as well as in this article discussing potential talks with Howard Stern). It just seems odd to me that this kind of thing would ever be okay with them. And maybe it’s not. I’d love to hear their perspective.

The following is UNEDITED, and includes racist and other highly offensive language. Me? I can take any swing at me on a personal level with a shaker of salt. But apparently, this is who stands up for Mr. Hollenback. I can’t imagine that they don’t know one another (working at the same radio station and all…on the same radio show). But have a read.

Additional disclaimer: If you ask HOW I could post this and offer it bandwidth given the nature of what you’ll read, here’s how: people talk like this – and they mean it. And this is who Hollenback, I’ll venture to guess, asked to speak for him. While there’s going to be a fair chunk of you who say this should have been resolved with a delete button, I’ll let the rest of you have your way with Don Wrege.

I couldn’t give three fine frog hairs what Don Wrege thinks of me. People spew every day and in every available venue, and it’s the venue with which I took issue. A community newspaper delivered to my mailbox. And now, Hollenback and Wrege want to play the “I work with/for Clear Channel” card. Comments like the one below aren’t satirical, funny or direct. They’re misguided and sick. I just want you to see for yourselves the game Hollenback plays.

And it’s not a game. These are words, directed at me, women like me and women in general. At fathers and men of every age. And they’re vile.

And for the record, I’ll stand by liking Fresca

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From: Disqus

Subject: [redheadwriting] Re: The Bitch Slap: How to Date in Denver When You’re a D-Bag

Date: September 14, 2010 7:05:46 PM MDT

To: Erika Napoletano

NOTE: This comment is waiting for your approval. It is not yet published on your site.

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Don Wrege <*EMAIL DELETED*> (unregistered) wrote:

Greg – Here are my thoughts on your column:

GREG: “Remember, women are wired to be dysfunctional by nature . . .”

Whoo boy! We’re off and running in the second paragraph! Cool!

GREG: “Your approach is everything. Your first impression and getting a woman to go out on a date with you is half the battle.” And this is where I know I lose the battle. You have my complete and total reading interest at this point… “Lastly, hot modern women are flight risks . . .”

LOL!!

GREG: “…women are little flowers looking for the strongest seed to pollinate them. Be strong and safe out there….”

Oh my god…I can’t wait to read the reaction to this.

FIRST IMPRESSION COMMENT

You have spoken the Great Truth my man. You have unearthed some Sacred Secrets known only to the Masters of the Craft which have heretofore been buried in obscure religious texts and old dusty issues of Penthouse and Playboy. You are performing an IMPORTANT PUBLIC SERVICE (or maybe an important pubic service) to young and old men everywhere. Now…let’s see what Ms. Napoletano (if that is her real name) has to say about it.

oh oh…

NAPOLETANO: “It’s NOT war in the world of man-meets-woman. Perhaps for the douchebags who would read your column and take your advice as the holy grail, . . .”

Methinks you have pissed the young lady off….and such course language…

NAPOLETANO: “This line actually made me spit Fresca. ”

Okay, let’s talk first about a woman who DRINKS FRESCA. My guess, and this is just a guess, is that it’s because –  as everyone knows – Fresca tastes just like carbonated sperm. But she obviously is aware of this fact. And, just reading this far, it’s obvious why she spit it out instead of swallowing it. I know the type. But I must soldier on…for your sake Greg.

NAPOLETANO: “How about if I came out and said that every guy is a chauvinistic, self-absorbed, cheating, infantile, commitmentphobe dickhead?”

Well, EriKa, I wouldn’t argue with you. And by the way, did your hippie parents give you the name EriKa (spelled stylishly wrong) because they had some drug-fueled dream that somehow you would be different from the herd? Unique in some way? And all you got out of it was a weird spelling of your name, yet you’re the same pitiful regret-filled bitch that you characterize as “psycho pussy” roaming the streets of Denver? (I notice she didn’t provide any helpful numbers or email addresses for this category of young woman, dammit.) Is EriKa the proverbial pot calling the fun chicks black? And if so, exactly WHAT does she have against black chicks I’d like to know.

Onward.

NAPOLETANO:  “Really? We’re not “dating” anymore? Well, slap me and call me Myrna.”

Okay, she’s obviously in to the Rough Stuff. I’ve met the type. Usually I will not abide by this kind of request, as I prefer to talk my women out of self-hating behaviors like getting slapped or otherwise physically abused. But the “call me Myrna” thing is a dead giveaway. EriKa is obviously so traumatized by her Rainbow Parents saddling her with a “different” name (she was probably teased and taunted mercilessly in high school) that she wants to be punished physically and called her great grandmother’s name of “Myrna,” as if a more pure spirit is reaching out to her from the grave.

Greg, this woman needs my help. But I soldier on through her drivel.

NAPOLETANO: “I’m going to a site that allows me to connect with MEN in order to explore future romantic involvement.”

Wait a minute. Just earlier in her hysterical rant she mentioned “sharing a life together.” So which is it
EriKa? Involvement? Or SHARING A LIFE, which pretty much means the death of hope for guys, to quote Woody Allen. Get off the fence EriKa, either you want it hot and now, or you want it cold, lifeless and forever. Your choice  Myrna! .

NAPOLETANO: “After you’ve been dating a girl for awhile, you can “hang out” with her on the couch.”

Actually, EriKa, it “hangs out” of my zipper.

NAPOLETANO: “My girlfriends’ favorite pastimes include things like cycling, hiking, climbing, knitting, salsa dancing, charity work, going to a Rockies game and working in the garden.”

Jesus…she left out watching PBS, wiping senior citizens’ asses and walking blind kids around the
block. Give me a fucking break – her girlfriends’ main hobby is texting and checking their makeup (when they aren’t talking about EriKa behind her back). Cycling? Maybe the kind that involves blood and napkins… Oh, and EriKa? They really aren’t you’re friends. You’re always the last to know these things aren’t you?

NAPOLETANO: “Great relationships are borne out of mutual attraction, timing, circumstance and…that “thing.”

That “thing”? What, has she forgotten how to spell “wallet”? It’s spelled w-a-l-l-e-t  Myrna! .

NAPOLETANO: “Hmmmm…how am I going to jack with his/her head so they know how much I like them?”

Okay, now she’s getting real. Yes Myrna, jack with my head. The little one. Faster.  FASTER! Okay, thank you. Now swallow your Fresca!

NAPOLETANO: “I am not a flower. Women are not flowers. We are women, . . .”

Well, EriKa, let me just step in for Mr. Hollenback here and say he was being polite on purpose. Of course women aren’t flowers. Far from it. They are open gashes of festering diseases and bottomless black holes of emotional need. But I felt Greg’s poetic interpretation was far prettier than the ugly, stinking, oozing truth. Look in the mirror EriKa. Look in the mirror and weep.

SKIPPED – the imaginary version of how she spends here day (because in reality, she gets up around 10am, scratches her ass, checks her email, looks in the mirror and then curses God on high that she woke up as HER again – then has a fattening snack to ease her psychic pain).

NAPOLETANO: “If children are in the mix, it’ll happen.”

Oh yeah? Dream on bitch. You’re thirty-fucking-SEVEN – and that’s just if you’re telling the truth! Any crotch fruit you spawn will have very oversized foreheads. You missed it lady – the clock ran out. While you were “being liberated,” and chasing your imaginary career, the16 year old illegals were having the HEALTHY babies. You might be able to punch out a Yuppie Puppie with autism due to the age of your shriveled womb and your worn out Cougar Jerky if you’re lucky. But it’s a long shot, and word to the wise: the sperm bank doesn’t take debit cards, girlfriend.

NAPOLETANO: “But I don’t need pollination. I’ve never met a woman in my thirty-seven years who did.”

No honey…you need IN VITRO FERTILIZATION at your age. Because no man-juice is going to make the horrid trek up your ancient withered caverns to find the goddam lost tomb, no matter how energetic his sperm cells. You’re outdated cheese woman. Face it Myrna! , FACE IT!

Again Greg, this woman obviously, desperately needs my help. But she’s a little old for my liking. I could make exceptions Greg, but only on your direct recommendation. As you know, I don’t like to waste my time on the
crazies. But the Psycho Pussies? Oh yeah!

User’s URL: http://www.mediawhore.com

IP address: *deleted*

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Have something to say? Here’s how to do it (though I can’t guarantee that the Glendale Cherry Creek Chronicle will care to hear from you):

UPDATE: I’ve had a very productive conversation with Joe Bevilacqua, Director of Programming for Denver with Clear Channel Communications. Greg Hollenback is, indeed, an employee of Clear Channel and the producer for the Peter Boyles Show. His company’s statement is that they would caution Mr. Hollenback’s references to his affiliation with Clear Channel in outside interests he pursues (such as his column in the Glendale Cherry Creek Chronicle). However, they will not censor Mr. Hollenback for his words in said venues unless it does material damage to Clear Channel’s reputation.

Clear Channel indicates that Don Wrege is an employee of Media Whore, which is owned by Peter Boyle (this, I cannot confirm, but the MediaWhore.com home page seems to indicate such). Media Whore is not a Clear Channel employee/company, either. Thus, if you have issue with Don Wrege, you could contact the Peter Boyle Show at KHOW 630AM per Clear Channel. If you have issue with Greg Hollenback, Clear Channel’s clearly stated their case – send your attention towards the editors at the GCCC. A HUGE thanks to Clear Channel for an open dialogue. While we can’t argue that Hollenback and Wrege are “buddies,” keep your comments flowing in the most productive directions. Sweeeet.

Contact the Editors at the Glendale Cherry Creek Chronicle
(The community newspaper that publishes Hollenback’s column)
newspaper@glendalecherrycreek.com
Phone: 303-312-1808

Contact the Morning Show at KHOW 630AM (choose Peter Boyle, per Clear Channel’s instructions)
(The Peter Boyles Show indicated that Media Whore – Wrege’s gig and the website he linked the above comment to –  is affiliated with the show per their landing page)
Main phone: 303-713-8000

246 comments
Merredith
Merredith

My mother used to always tell me, basically -- "sometimes what Don and Greg say about Erika says more about Don and Greg ... than it ever could Erika." Not making any assumptions about Mr. Wrege and caverns here, but possibly one about bullies, insecurities and pettiness. Well played, sorry you had to play it.

Lissa Duty
Lissa Duty

Wow! All I can say is Don & Greg are both idiots! They deserve each other. Perhaps, after they have used & abused all the women that will take it, they will endulge in comforting each other. I think that is the only topic that hasn't been covered with their rhetoric. I am glad you didn't trash this! All us women out there need to see what these type of men are really about! Their true selves. Thanks, Erika! Ps. I like the K in your name, after all I am Lissa (pronounced Lisa) spelled with 2 S's!

Sandals
Sandals

Yeah, what he said. Very well spoken, Hubbit. I can guarantee these d-bags have no clue what temerity, gobsmacked or eloquently even mean with their incredibly limited vocabularies. The most they know is sperm. As a copyeditor, I would like to take everything they wrote and rip it to shreds.

Kristi Francisco
Kristi Francisco

Shit. 37 is the age of barren women? I'm 35 and I've only got one redheaded little munchkin so far. So it looks like I've gotta get cracking if I want to perpetuate the race more. After looking at both of those d-bags' pictures and bios, I see now why a nerve was touched. They couldn't get laid at a whore convention with a suitcase full of money. And I'll send the 18 month little one up there to kick some ass in Denver. I'm pretty sure she can take them, and having it done by a redhead is even better...

Matt Dibble
Matt Dibble

Good recon on the age thing... although none of us really needed. The entire comment sounds like a grandpa trying to be funny. (and not the funny, shit my dad says kind, either). "And then I'll put a spit or swallow joke in there! It'll be hilarious and Greg will love it!"

VegasWill
VegasWill

He's probably just trying to make a name for himself. If he has some kind of analytics, he's gonna say "WHOA!". This "Red Head Girl" got me some major traffic... hence, he's gonna keep it up. I know, I know, I'm Italian and have a bit of a Brooklyn temper, so I doubt I'd be able to let it rest either! His silence is deafening.

Brien
Brien

I'm afraid A-holes like this not only still exist, they are teaching a new generation to be A-Holes just like this. I'm a divorced dad co-parenting a Daughter and a Son. I will teach my daughter about D-bags like this who reduce dating to scoring as they really don't want real relationships. I'll Teach my son not to be a D-bag. The Achilles heel of Ass-faces like this is an intelligent woman who has a life that doesn't focus on pleasing them so they insult and degrade as it's all they are capable of doing. I hear them now reading their moronic thoughts and like a 12 year old boy muttering "ooo burrn" to themselves. @geothinkers

Shireen Gonzaga
Shireen Gonzaga

Just got two words to describe these clowns: Arrested Development.

The Redhead
The Redhead

Roland - Sorry for the delay in posting your comment. I didn't whitelist you as I should have! Again, however, I'll say there IS no separation between "real life" and online - they're all "real life." And I never whined. I posted the comment and DID let my readers have their way with it (so you can see). I haven't said word one about a character judgement on Wrege, though given his comment, I've got a fair bit to work with. And yes, props to Clear Channel. I feel badly that Peter Boyles, who's a well-received AM host, will have to bear the brunt of complaints on Wrege (per Clear Channel's explicit instructions), considering he's simply the guy who's got these two characters in his midst. Complaints about Hollenback's column should go to the GCCC, not Boyles. I appreciated my dialogue with Bivelacqua. And I don't see where you feel I've "sunk to his level" in reference to Wrege. I posted his comment - the readers weighed in. Thanks for popping by once again - you're whitelisted :)

Lisa
Lisa

I'm shocked and speechless....i wrote the radio station and the paper.

Chandra Michaels
Chandra Michaels

Yesterday afternoon I saw one of my friends post a link to your story. I don't know what about the tweet captured my attention, but I came to check out your post. Upon reading this story, I went about devouring your entire site. Clearly, your writing skeelz are unbelievable...but your sense of humor and quick wit has made me a new fan! So now...I will no longer feel irritated about the toenails I find by the couch, the toilet seat which remains in a constant state of uppedness, the sweaty socks that leave a 1000 ft trail from the living room to the bedroom, or even the 84 dirty coffee cups I found in his floorboard - because my husband is AWESOME! Thank you so much for reminding me of this. I am so lucky that I have someone sweet, generous, supportive and in no way anything like these men in this story. I know they are out there...and I'm sorry that you have to wade through them. You are brilliant. These men ARE douchebags. And dirtbags. And nutbags. And eyebags. And saddlebags. (I can't think of any more bags right now)! But I'm so disgusted on your behalf!

Jim Raffel
Jim Raffel

Erika, I've started three times and deleted. I'm just going to offer you a virtual hug (((Erika))) for now for standing up for families and values in our society. That, in fact, my dear new friend is all you did :)

BanteringBlonde
BanteringBlonde

As a fellow Denver resident I have to say that this isn't really at all surprising to me. It is offensive, inappropriate, and lame - but that is their schtick! Back in the days when my body and mind were zombie-ized (purposeful use of non-existent word) by the resulting crotch fruit born of legit traveled "man juice", I would drive through town with talk radio on to drown out the buzzing in my head and the echo in my rapidly "withering caverns". Hollenback isn't even funny, it's the kind of humor that just makes you feel really uncomfortable because it's so stupid. He and Wrege are creepy, smarmy and lack class but apparently there is an audience for it here in Denver; although, that it would be found in Cherry Creek is a little surprising to me. And disturbing. Rock on Sista!

Dan
Dan

Truly pathetic. These sort of people aren't worth your time or effort in the slightest, although hopefully, through all the various mediums available, people are giving him a hard time. Frankly it seems like a waste of time not to hit the delete button after the first few lines, although I do understand your reasoning. After all, as far as he's probably concerned, even if it takes bad publicity to get noticed someone is finally paying attention to him. Doubt it's happened before if he's anything like that in real life.

Sylvia
Sylvia

Don Wrege...Don Wrege...The name rings some long-forgotten, buried bell, and the general feeling I get is that it was not about anything pleasant. Maybe it'll come back to my positively fossilized, old-lady brain. These guys are nothing but some pre-historic slime that didn't evolve with the rest of us.

D.T. Pennington
D.T. Pennington

It's a well known fact - if you put yourself on the internet, you're going to get attacked. If you publish on any medium, you will get criticism, from everyone. It's the way of this delightful little world we've created. However, Roland, the first "fight" that was picked was Erika responding to someone who claims to have been a professional in his field (that is the "sheik" claiming to know a lot about women. And he might, he is just in no station to be writing about such things). Many of her arguments were pretty valid - he's not big enough to play in the deep end just yet, which is what he's doing. The initial prompting was against everything he claimed as a professional. However, the adolescent reply coming from Greg, or Don, or whoever the hell decided using "carbonated sperm" as an argument, wasn't rebutting against Erika's arguments, he was outright attacking Erika as a person. Which is low, the lowest of the low. Erika's "attack" was on the guy's inability to do his "job" correctly. Greg's attack was on a person's sole being. Huge difference.

Jason Hobbs, LLC
Jason Hobbs, LLC

Wow. I am not sure there is anything I can add that hasn't already been covered but I will say this, (I haven't read every comment as I only have an hour lol) these two guys have problems/issues, not the least of which is being severely intimidated by strong, successful, and attractive women, like a certain redhead. Wrege's issues were there long before the associated pain was directed/spewed at you and the best part, in my humble opinion, is that they will remember/dwell on this incident for years to come, while you will move on to the far more fulfilling experiences you deserve as soon as tomorrow. Just when I think I have seen the worst, I happen upon this....

Robyn
Robyn

I recently promised to quit using the term 'Douchebag' because I was using it too much. Fucking Douchebag. I think he is exactly what PJ Mullen describes him as. And one more thing. As a decrepit and wasting away thirty-six-year-old, I have tasted BOTH sperm and Fresca. Apples and oranges, douchebag. And if yours has a carbonated feel to it, you might want to head on down for some antibiotics, buddy. High fives to you, Erika. This epic Bitch Slap has confirmed that you are a GODDESS!

Leon Noone
Leon Noone

G'Day Erika, Goodonya for posting all of this. Now walk away. They are not worthy of all this space and energy. Here are some diverting questions for you... * do infants enjoy infancy as much as adults enjoy adultery? * If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular? * Why isn't 11 pronounced onety one? * Why is the man who invests all your money called a broker? Regards Leon

Shelly
Shelly

It may take a while for me to pick my jaw up off the floor. I would hate to see the condition of his blow up doll... Because unless he's paying for it, I can't imagine a woman spending more than 5 minutes with this 'man'. There are so many points to make and rally against in his post - but the comments below cover it pretty nicely.... I just have to add that I was 37 when I had my son and maybe he should actually know what he is talking about before he spews...

The Redhead
The Redhead

Thanks for the kinds words. Appreciate them I always welcome the discourse, whether it agrees with me or not. And it's always nice to see you pop by the blog :)

vaguelycool
vaguelycool

Oh give me a break. Yuck. This guy is a tool. I picture him as "that guy" at the bar in his stinky cheap suit and two day shirt, slurring crap comments to the 21 year old waitresses, while slurping into his gin and tonic and shaking the ice cubes. He then pays his bill with his overrun credit card and staggers to his Chrysler LeBaron that he parked in the alley 8 blocks away and swerves home where he tries to whack it to Magnum PI. What a bore. Redhead, pity him. He's sad.

Grant
Grant

Dear Mr Wrege, After reviewing your website where you state your "uncanny resemblance to Ozzy Osbourne, and ability to act the part, bought ... an 'E' ticket on a crazy train that led to ... a book: "My Year as Ozzy", I am wondering if the title of your next crazy train and book will be titled "My 5 minutes of fame as a dickhead." As for Erika... to know her is to love her. Sincerely Grant

Jamie Lynn Morgan
Jamie Lynn Morgan

Looks like some "D"bag has too much time on his hands! As someone who has passed 37 and heading for 40 at the beginning of 2011-- I find his comments about women our age deplorable. (I sense some anger and it is probably because he can't even get someone our age to look at his wrinkliness.) I agree with your friends who told you to post this and to anyone who thinks you are fueling some fire, (Rolandhulme): Until you are being personally attacked yourself you might want to keep your judgement's to yourself. Easy to say you don't smell something burning, until your ass is actually on fire!

JenHuiz
JenHuiz

Wow...just, wow. I have nothing new to add, other than, I will never be able to drink Fresca again. Never.

Ms. Snark
Ms. Snark

Erika, Some sharp comments here not much to add, except that clearly some people don't get what happens when you click "send" or "publish." It becomes live, printable, sharable, postable. Like you said, it's not radio and Google will find this crap. It'll stalk you til the end of days. Yikes.

Bimmerpilot
Bimmerpilot

30-minutes well spent hubbit. My sentiments exactly!

Alysson
Alysson

I don't even know where to begin. Or if I should. Outrageous. Abominable. Pernicious. Incendiary. Divisive. Shameless. Contemptible. Nefarious. Dreadful. Putrid. Detestable. Vile. Despicable. Opprobrious. I could go on, but I believe I've made my point with the adjectives. There's no need to wonder if Clear Channel condones or encourages those affiliated with their brand to act in such a manner publicly. Back in 2008 Clear Channel signed Rush Limbaugh to an 8 year, $400 million dollar contract. And back in 2007 one of Clear Channel's subsidiaries, Premiere Radio Networks, resigned Glenn Beck to an additional 5 year contract - worth an estimated $50 million. Don Wrege, at age 56, is attempting to use this attention and the ensuing controversy over his comments to get himself on Clear Channel's radar. While I would like to think that complaints to Clear Channel would culminate in the dismissal of both Mr. Hollenbeck and Mr. Wrege, based on their track record for encouraging, celebrating and paying handsomely for incessant and relentless hate-mongering, misogyny and race-baiting, I'd expect them both to be offered nationally syndicated radio shows in short order. Clear Channel LOVES this stuff. They live for it. They profit from it. Their entire conservative radio empire is built on it. Without people like Greg Hollenbeck and Don Wrege, they'd have no audience. The most appalling fact is not that men like this exist. It's that Clear Channel recognized that an audience existed for this particular kind of unevolved and unenlightened drivel. And that, by far, is the most discouraging, disappointing and disconcerting fact of all.

The Redhead
The Redhead

Roland - Welcome back. First and foremost, I have absolutely NO delusions regarding "the internet" and "real life." There IS no difference. There is NO difference between saying something offensive on the internet or a local newspaper or saying it live on a radio program. Well, actually, there is one glaring difference: you can't Google the radio (and for this, there are several people quite glad, I'm sure). I'm not acting, as you state, like a "wounded maiden." Christ - SWING AWAY! There's nowhere I've offered any comment in MY post today about either Hollenback or Wrege on a personal level. I've asked Clear Channel to respond as to whether they feel this is conduct becoming of an employee, especially given their clearly stated policies. I do not THINK the companies whom I listed are related to this matter. It is a fact and I substantiated my facts with appropriate links. The Glendale Cherry Creek Chronicle prints the guy's column (fact). The morning show on which he works is a Clear Channel affiliate in Boulder, CO (fact). The page for the morning show clearly shows Hollenback and "Media Whore" (Wrege's company) as associated with the program (fact). And I trust you - my panties are securely in the proper place. And I did respond to the comment - it's live. I've been breathing all day, but thanks for the reminder. And yes, I featured Hollenback in Monday's column. If Clear Channel isn't monitoring what their representatives are doing/saying on line, shame on them. It's not like I took a private email and sent it to his boss I just pointed out something that is clearly over the top (there's NO defending this) and said "if you're as concerned as I am, perhaps their employers, who give them microphones, might like to know how they're representing themselves." In the end, on-air personalities are the faces and voices of the stations they represent. Hollenback says everywhere he's a radio personality. Wrege's website has Clear Channel plastered all over it. These are the voices that represent that station and ultimately, Clear Channel. I took issue with the fact that Hollenback's misogyny was delivered to my MAILBOX and I took issue with his words. There needs to be less if this spew in the media and yeah - when it comes my way, I'm gonna take a swing at it. C'est ca.

The Redhead
The Redhead

I've asked all day for Don to let us know about his research on the Fresca-Sperm issue, but alas...nothing. Thanks for stopping by!

bopo
bopo

Astonished as I am when I meet that type person(woman hater and racist bigot) I don't attempt to sway them. I step onward. They deserve no audience, only their likeness. Most are married and I wonder if their partner is the oppressed or the oppressor. Personally though, I find women most enthralling between 35 and 50 years of age; but I'm wicked old!

Gini Dietrich
Gini Dietrich

I honestly don't know what to say. First of all, as an avid cyclist, I take HUGE offense to his comments about that...as if "girls" can't compete on a bike. I'll take him on any day, any time, any where. That would be fun for me! Secondly, who attacks the spelling of one's name as a point of debate? Seriously? And then we get to the entire dialogue about age and having babies? O. M. G. I'm with Mr. Puck. This was well thought out and written for the mere goal of being vile. I'm astounded. I'm flabbergasted. And I'm proud of you for posting it!

Rolandhulme
Rolandhulme

Okay, normally I'm a BIG fan of yours, Erika - but seriously? You pick a deliberate fight with a columist - call him a douchebag and take great pride in 'bitch slapping' him - and then act like this when some second rate radio hack tries to cash in on the publicity by writing a trollish response? He WANTS the publicity. He WANTs the attention and the outrage. You're FEEDING IT. But what really disturbs me is that you're posting what you THINK are links to companies he MIGHT be involved with asking people to complain about the content of this comment on a blog? First off - does anybody really fucking care? He's got a company called MediaWhore. Do you really think this is anything different? Secondly, and more importantly, there's a difference between writing something offensive on the Internet and then actually going out into the real world and trying to hurt somebody personally and professionally. That's FUCKED UP. What the hell is wrong with you? Don't get me wrong, what he wrote was disgusting - really foul - but it was written because you went and made an attack against a public figure and when you get attacked in return you really can't act like a wounded maiden. You're an INSTIGATOR and you got INSTIGATED. Seriously, put on your big girl panties and respond to the comment - don't try and attack somebody in real life - even if you think they deserve it. You are big into self publicity and I dig that - you do a great job and I'm a big fan - but when you take the Internet into the real world it's clear you have a problem differentiating between the inane online jabberings of netheads - which are inconsequential and go unread by 99.999% of the world - and real life - which involves real problems and real consequences. I suggest you take a deep breath and step back. I actually know a blogger who sued another blogger for a post that got written. His case got laughed out of court, HE got written about in papers because it was a test case (this was a few years ago) and in the end looked like a butt hurt donkey. You're smarter than both Hollenbeck and this worm, so you can bitchslap them both silly in the comments section - and we look forward to seeing it. If you try and hurt them professionally, though, that's carte blanche for them to do the same to you IN REAL LIFE. You're much better than picking fights and then taking the bait when people respond.

Mark Aaron Murnahan
Mark Aaron Murnahan

I always thought gay men were friendlier than that. I guess this one just needs more attention than average.

bopo
bopo

These guys give NO men a bad rap. I'm floored everytime I meet a guy like that as well as the bigoted racists I encounter. It happens only once or twice a year. I make no attempt to sway them, I just move on, astonished that they even exist.Most are married. The only assumption I make is that their poor partner must be destroyed or else the opposite is happening. I've mixed feelings about the continuation of the exchange and exposure afforded this person. They deserve only themselves and their likeness. On a note I must say that women between 35 and 45 are the most thrilling for me. but I'm wicked old!

Marissa
Marissa

Ever hear the wisdom "What you send out comes back to you threefold"? It'll be interesting to hear what these guys have been through ten years from now! (Also, statistically speaking, most nursing home caregivers are of the female persuasion. They may want to map out a specific plan for their declining years. ANYBODY can Google...and Disqus Comments are Forever...

bkmacdaddy designs
bkmacdaddy designs

Floored. Embarrassed. Appalled. Disgusted. Disturbed. Disappointed. And yet grateful for the relieving reminder that, just because one or a few extreme examples of the absolutely worst of (fill in the blank with your chosen race, gender, sexual orientation, political party, religion, or other category riddled with stereotypes) have no greater passion than seeking out and utilizing platforms for their misguided agendas of ignorance and self-absorbed stupidity, not everyone else in their "category" feels, behaves or thinks the same way. They are extremists, which means, in the end, they are basically alone.

Bothered Pocket
Bothered Pocket

Really, having read the above through again, I'd be very surprised if the pair of them kept their jobs or, at the very least, weren't heavily disciplined and warned over future conduct. It's disappointing that these attitudes persist.

Bothered Pocket
Bothered Pocket

I'm English and I've noticed something that's peculiar to Americans, for the obvious reason. Any time someone's acting like a complete arsehole and another party points it out, First Amendment is cited and any responsibility for one's words and actions goes completely out of the window; "Oh, ah, First Amendment, you can't silence me, fascist!" The amusing thing to me is that the First Amendment regards lawmaking; it's got nothing to do with restricting anyone's right to point out what a dickhead someone's being. Citing First Amendment, in order to continue being a prick, only serves to highlight said prickness to the rest of us. Last I knew, our dear Erika was not an elected representative.

Kelly Tidd
Kelly Tidd

I'm so unbelievably upset by this. I think the part that disturbs me the most is that he seems to think the women that he pulls in are confident, modern women, since you are the exact opposite of his "type" and he has labeled you as insecure. It saddens me to know there are actually women who flock to this sort of misogyny. But to actually delude yourself into thinking that they are self-possessed, contemporary women is even sadder. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to have a complete emotional breakdown for no reason and then eat a tub of lard to drown my sorrows.

Carol Roth
Carol Roth

Thanks for the cool points. Can I redeem them for merchandise? Or are they like South Park's "theoretical Internet dollars"? lol

PJ Mullen
PJ Mullen

I couldn’t resist, plus the kids were actually napping. If you choose to not publish this comment, I totally understand. I’m a dad and husband and these neaderthal, narcissistic, misogynist jackwagons drove me positively insane. I got my wife not by concealing dragging knuckles or treating her like a conquest, but because I make a kick ass meal. I stay at home with my children (2 and 12 weeks), cook all our meals and keep the house clean. Still, I’m a guy. I like beer, watch football and play with chainsaws. Asshats like this give the rest of us a very bad name. *** Him: Methinks you have pissed the young lady off….and such course language… Me: Wow, that is probably the first time you’ve thought this week. This month? OK, year. Him: Okay, let’s talk first about a woman who DRINKS FRESCA. My guess, and this is just a guess, is that it’s because – as everyone knows – Fresca tastes just like carbonated sperm… Me: So, I take it you’ve sucked a lot of carbonated dick in your day? Fraternity initiation ritual or college prank gone wrong? Makes me glad I never pledged a social in college. Him: Well, EriKa, I wouldn’t argue with you. And by the way, did your hippie parents give you the name EriKa (spelled stylishly wrong) because they had some drug-fueled dream that somehow you would be different from the herd… Me: Stylishly wrong, really? Our education system must have been in shambles for longer than we thought if you consider Erika to be spelled stylishly wrong. Him: Okay, she’s obviously in to the Rough Stuff. I’ve met the type… Me: The only “rough” stuff you’ve ever gotten is when you’ve had to settle for cleaning up with a wad of cheap single ply after “roughing” up the suspect. Him: … Get off the fence EriKa, either you want it hot and now, or you want it cold, lifeless and forever. Your choice Myrna! . Me: If I cared to look up the public records I can only imagine that “cold and lifeless” is how your ex (and I’m assuming you have one for the sake of this exercise) used to describe your sex life in divorce proceedings. Him: Actually, EriKa, it “hangs out” of my zipper. Me: Actually, you’re lucky if it makes it past the zipper - fully aroused. Him: Jesus…she left out watching PBS, wiping senior citizens’ asses and walking blind kids around the block… Me: Yeah, because being educated or kind isn’t sexy or anything. We men don’t like our women to have any book learning. Him: That “thing”? What, has she forgotten how to spell “wallet”? It’s spelled w-a-l-l-e-t Myrna! . Me: No one is after your wallet. Everyone knows it’s empty, just like your skull. Him: Okay, now she’s getting real. Yes Myrna, jack with my head. The little one. Faster. FASTER! Okay, thank you. Now swallow your Fresca! Me: A bit quick on the draw, eh? I heard that happens after 50. But I’m guessing that started happening for you far earlier. Him: Well, EriKa, let me just step in for Mr. Hollenback here and say he was being polite on purpose. Of course women aren’t flowers. Far from it… Me: You must never actually had the good fortune to see one of these flowers, unless, of course, you’re counting all the porn. Most a pity. Him: Oh yeah? Dream on bitch. You’re thirty-fucking-SEVEN – and that’s just if you’re telling the truth! … and word to the wise: the sperm bank doesn’t take debit cards, girlfriend… Me: My 38 year old wife, who just had a baby 3 months ago and already looks better than ever, wants to fly to Denver and kick your ass. She’d probably win, too. And again with the sperm? Is this some fetish for you? Did you try to buy some with your debit card to mix with your Fresca and get declined? Him: No honey…you need IN VITRO FERTILIZATION at your age. … Me: You know an awful lot about sperm banks, which is surprising considering they’ve probably refused your deposits for the sake of protecting our future generations. And in the event one did slip by them I can always hope for “nurture vs. nature”, right? Him: Again Greg, this woman obviously, desperately needs my help. But she’s a little old for my liking. I could make exceptions Greg, but only on your direct recommendation… Me: Puhlease, with your narcissistic, misogynist attitude you’d mount anything that had a pulse if granted the rare opportunity, and even the point about the pulse might be negotiable.

The Redhead
The Redhead

Don't really think I have anything to add except to thank you for taking time to read & comment. :)

Amy
Amy

This reminds me of our new roommate, whom we've unfortunately discovered enjoys yelling at his girlfriend about every little thing and enjoys going out of his way to complain to my husband about what trouble women are. And yet his girlfriend has sex with him anyway. (I don't think she likes it though; she's totally silent.) Thank you, Ms. Napoletano, for not being like this girlfriend. Now, is there a button I can push to wipe out Don and Greg from existence?

Maureen
Maureen

I had to take out my contacts due to the drying that occurred during my attempt to understand what this limp dick "hanging out of his zipper" was trying to say. Not only was his response's immaturity and idiocy frustrating as fuck, so was the fact that I really wanted him to say something smart and that was never delivered. Alas his response reminded me of an adolescent scene we are all too familiar with. The one where we have to let our little brother come and play with us because Mom "said so" and once he tried to impress the popular kids in school with his pathetic sling shot trick we all were left looking back and forth at each other through the corners of our eyes. Yawn. Don, when you want to come and play with the big kids, leave your dick behind. It seems to inhibit you from intelligence and reality.

BrettGreene
BrettGreene

I left the music business ten years ago, but was in it for 15 years. Clear Channel was referred to as "The Evil Empire" ...daily. It's an old boys network kind of company that is known for treating employees like crap. Only a guy like Wrege would have low enough self respect (and a need for attention) to stay in the sitcheation of being a Clear Channel lackey.If this guy has a talk show then the only thing more disturbing than his ignorant and asinine comments is that there are people who give their precious time away to listen to him.If he wasn't so repulsive and hateful I would warn him about two things: 1. Napoletano is her real name, and 2. Today you f*$ked with the wrong lady my friend.

George Passwater
George Passwater

Pure evil. I am floored. Did this guy get dropped on his head too many times as a child? Whether he is doing it for fun or this is how he really is, there is no excuse for such vile and putrid attack against you. I have to say it too - how does he know what carbonated sperm tastes like? Maybe a drunken night gone wrong? Guess we will never know.

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