You’ve heard it. I’ve said it recently. It’s ingrained in our lexicon and has become the lame cousin of hizzy and awesome, yet in the Avoidance category as opposed to Enthusiasm. It’s the shorter version of the Office Space classic, “Yeahhhhhhhhh, I’m gonna need you to come in on Saturday.”
It’s bullshit, is what it is. And now, we’re going to get busy slapping “busy” out of your vocabulary.
Truth: Everyone Is Busy
I don’t care if you’re a sophomore in college or a 42-year-old parent of two: we’re all busy. Our collective Pile of Things to Do is one with no bottom. In fact, it would be more likely for me to get married in the next 72 hours than it would be to find the mythical bottom of The Pile. There are never enough hours in the day to get shit done. We’re all stressed and have life, people, and things pulling us in every direction. You being busy? Not special. At all.
Why the Fuck Are You Busy?
Being busy is the crappiest excuse we have for not __________. Fill in the blank, folks. When I was a kid in school, there was what teachers referred to as “busy work” — work assigned for one reason and one reason only: to keep kids quiet and occupied. So if I parlay that into adulthood like a rationally thinking human being should, busy is the last thing you should be. EVER. You and I should never be busy. We should be working at getting things done, towards goals, and with a purpose. So, the next time you find yourself wanting to spout off (and I’m included here) about how busy you are, think about how lame that sounds and all of the things you could be doing instead of being busy. Busy? Busy can suck it because all it’s doing is sucking time from you and the task of getting you from where you are to where you want to be.
What “I’m Busy” Really Means
It means I don’t care enough to give you a real response. It means I’m lazy. It means that you don’t mean enough to me for me to sit down for three minutes and pick up the phone, write you an email, or walk up to your front door and offer you the personalized response you deserve.
When you tell someone “I’m busy,” you’re just telling them, “I’m too busy for you” in what you think is the nicest way possible.
And I’m guilty. Fucking bring-down-the-gavel-and-sentence-me guilty. The words, “I’m busy” will leave my vocabulary as of today and I have some apologizing to do to those on whom I’ve heaped this please listen to the nice hold music placebo. Because I’m never too busy to do the following things:
- Give you the straight response you deserve
- Answer your questions
- Take your call or return it if need be
- Ask about your life when you’re kind enough to ask about mine
- Offer help for all the help you’ve given me.
We make the time for things and people in life that we find worth making time for. Without exception. If anything other than this statement were true, no one would ever get laid. If we can find time to fuck, flip through Facebook, shop online, and have any sort of knowledge why Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise are divorcing — we aren’t busy. And we sure as hell aren’t giving the people and things in our life that deserve it their proper due.
So the next time you want to tell someone “I’m so busy!”, try saying, “I don’t have the time to make time for your request right now because you’re not worth my attention.”
I’m bettin’ you might find that it’s a better use of your oh-so-busy days to give them a straight answer, like: “Thanks for reaching out and inviting me to participate in this panel. I can’t make that date, but would be happy to refer you to a few colleagues who might be able to meet your needs. Can you tell me what you’re looking for so I can point you in the right direction?”
You could have just said, “I’m busy — thanks for thinking of me!” but you opted to decline and be useful at the same time. Fucking amazing.
So, Tell Me: How “Busy” Are You?
I’m bettin’ that you’re not really that busy. You (like me) just opt for the lazy way out sometimes. We chatted last week about getting off your ass and designing a life without rules of other people. You also got smacked around about your need to make excuses. So what the hell is it with all the laziness?
Your life is the way it is because that’s how you allow it to be.
Things will either happen to you or you will take the things in your life and make things happen.
And if you’re simply too busy to get off your ass (and yes, my ass is in the mix here, too) and offer up the straight answer with everyone else AND yourself…
It’s no wonder that your life doesn’t look at all like the life you envisioned for yourself. You told Life you were busy…
so it moved on.
Think about that the next time you’re busy — your life walking away because you couldn’t give it the due it deserved.
You’ve been slapped.