The Bitch Slap: Stop Being a Jackass With Your LinkedIn Requests

how to use LinkedIn etiquetteYou need to learn how to use LinkedIn if you’re going to use it.

Every week, my “Invitations” inbox is jam packed with invitations to connect. Lovely. People like me. Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay.

But would you kindly explain to me who the fuck you are and why you’re jamming up not just one, but TWO of my inboxes with your requests? By the time I get that little notification in my real inbox that you’d “like to add me to your professional network on LinkedIn,” I now have two messages to delete instead of one.

And frankly, you’re wearing me out.

So today, you’re getting a Bitch Slap about how to use LinkedIn and do something as simple as asking someone to join your network. And for all that is holy, it’s time for you to stop being a jackass and wasting everyone else’s time — and your own.

Stop Being Lazy

First, LinkedIn makes it way too easy for us to just click a button and “add people to our professional networks” — but that’s no excuse for you to act like an ass monkey about it and abuse the capability.

When you make the bold move to connect with someone, ditch the lame and lazy default LinkedIn message that’s sent with your request. All that tells someone is you couldn’t be bothered with explaining to them how you know them and why they should consider your request to connect. And let’s be honest: you don’t know 75% of the people sending these generic LinkedIn requests to your inbox, do you?

So quit sending them to mine!

If you can’t be bothered to explain to me HOW I know you, I can’t be bothered to respond to your request to connect. Your lame ass, generic LinkedIn request to connect holds just as much meaning as inviting me to your drum circle (I hate drum circles), an invitation to wash your car on Saturday (I don’t even wash my own car), or an invitation to run through a field of bees wearing a blanket of flowers with stamens and pistils heaving with pollen.

They’re all filed under Shit That Isn’t Going to Happen.

And if you think it’s hard, it’s NOT. Yesterday, I guest lectured at The Wolff Center for Entrepreneurship at the University of Houston. It’s one of the top entrepreneurship programs in the nation. EVERY LinkedIn request I received from those students explained to me:

  • Who they are
  • That they saw me speak at U of H.
  • How I might remember talking to them, whether they’d be having office hours with me when I return today, or something they remembered from my talks.

Their average age was in their early 20s. What’s your excuse?

Truth be told, I don’t want to ever “join someone’s professional network on LinkedIn”. I don’t give a shit about your professional network and I don’t delude myself into thinking you give two frog’s fine ass hairs about mine. So if you’re going to ask, you’d better make it good.

On that note, some requests always come from people you’ve known forever — professionally — and they really need no introduction. The funny thing is that those requests are actually some of the most well-crafted requests I ever receive.

Some examples:

“I’d like to add you to my armada so I can one day sink your battleship. Figuratively speaking, of course. I think. Do you own a battleship?”

“Why the fuck aren’t we already connected on LinkedIn? I’ve eaten dinner at your house.”

“Erika, the time has come in our 3-year relationship to ask: will you be my LinkedIn connection? To pimp and promote, to whore article links and share job postings, till severance package (or other exit strategy) we part?”

What Do You Want From Me?

If you don’t know someone and you’re going to be ballsy enough to weasel your way into their professional world, sack up and explain what you want from them. And remember  — we’re not interested in “joining your professional network”.

When you send a request to connect, tell the person what they can hope to get out of making that connection.

And yes — it’s IS a game of What’s In It for Me. You’re coming into two of my inboxes and asking me for my time. While you might think it’s a small ask, asking for me to let you inside the world of people I consider to be colleagues is not a small ask. Some people don’t treat their networks that way, but many do.

Explain what you want and what’s in this proposed digital relationship for the person on the other side of your ask.

For. Fuck’s. Sake.

Whoa There, Nelly! Ease Up With the Asks!

I consider it an incredible gift to be able to travel and speak as part of my living. Through those activities, I meet a ton of amazing people all over the world.

But seeing someone speak at a conference — or hearing them on a webinar, podcast, or reading an article they wrote — doesn’t mean you can use their LinkedIn inbox as a workaround to compensating them for what they do for a living.

Here’s a list of shit that can stop on LinkedIn, and pronto:

  • The Novellas: Stop dumping into the inbox of someone you don’t know with your life’s history, timeline of your amazing business idea, or plea for help.
  • The General Vomit: Stop it with the vague asks on oh-so-general business subjects.
  • The Uber Ask: Unless you have explicit permission, stop it with the “I’m going to use LinkedIn to avoid paying for a consulting session” routine. I can’t explain how much free advice I’m asked to offer. And unless I’ve offered to give it to you (like I did with the students at U of H yesterday who couldn’t get a session during my office hours today on account of my slots being booked full), dumping your scenario into someone’s inbox with the hopes of “picking their brain” is rude. Just. Plain. Rude. Ask for permission. And if someone is valuable enough to have in your “professional network”, why don’t you respect them enough to compensate them for their expertise and insight?

Everyone in your LinkedIn network gets up and goes to work in the morning to do work for which they are paid. Even nonprofits pay their employees. LinkedIn messages and connection requests aren’t workarounds designed to help you avoid paying someone for at least an hour of their time. And whatever that hour of time costs — isn’t your career, happiness, and reputation worth it?

So Stop It

And I get it — not everyone takes their LinkedIn account as seriously as I do. I also need to be a bit less liberal about the requests I accept.

But whomever you’re reaching out to, please stop wasting their time.

Buttons that are easy to click shouldn’t always be clicked.

Not everyone wants to be your digital friend.

If you’re going to make the ask and fill up TWO of someone’s inboxes, don’t be a lazy motherfucker and insult that person with one of LinkedIn’s generic “OMGBEMYFRIENDLOL” messages.

Oh — and don’t say you’ve “done work together” at your company if you haven’t really. That shit just pisses me off.

Maybe we could all start viewing LinkedIn as the next level in our careers — a way to see what people are doing professionally, beyond the pithy quotes and Instagramed food shots. I see it as an RSS feed of thought. I do more thinking with the content I see shared on LinkedIn and within my LinkedIn groups than any other social network in my repertoire.

And if you want in on some of that, it damn well better be worth my time.

So stop wasting mine with your lamesauce. And stop wasting yours by sending out a slew of “connection” requests without rhyme or reason.

For all I know, you’re the clerk at my dry cleaner. And while he’s hilarious and a super nice person who makes my clothes all kickass before I head out on business trips, I don’t really need him in my “professional network”.

You’ve been slapped. Now stop acting like a LinkedIn ass monkey and get some fucking work done.

 

 

120 comments
aimeelevens
aimeelevens

Good stuff. I'm a recruiter and get tons of folks asking to connect with me with zero greeting or explanation why - and I even have it ON my profile that they need to say why they want to connect and that I don't hire candidates looking for sponsorship for my clients, yet I still get generic invites from Pakistan and China. As a recruiter I use InMails to contact folks where I have more than twelve or thirteen characters to say why I'm reaching out - I never use the Connect feature for folks I don't know - yet soooo many skeezy recruiter do. Bleah! 


The only thing I'll beg to differ on is the drycleaning one - if you're job searching or hiring, you never know who knows who and when you're trying to find good people, sometimes it indeed is your neighbor's brother-in-law who's the software engineer you need, or your aunt's BFF who's hiring a sales exec. At least in my town, the more folks you know the better in the career world, which is what a large % of LinkedIn is geared toward.

Brody Luebkeman
Brody Luebkeman

Was reading through articles on how to improve my profile and someone posted a link to your article. What a fantastic way to wake up! This was so hilarious but completely true (yes I'm guilty of "like to add you to my professional network" but that's gonna stop now.). Thank you Erika! Definitely going to start reading more of your stuff!!

skooloflife
skooloflife

I shared this on my Linkedin profile asking people to please read it before they connect with me. I get so many random requests and I have no idea what the heck the point is to them. If I send a connection request, I always make it a point to include a personalized message.   What's amazing is tomorrow my inbox there will filled with connection requests from people who don't give any reason.  The funny thing is I even put a status update there saying "please specify why you want to connect." It was followed with 6 random connection requests. So THANK YOU for writing this. I hope the CEO of  Linkedin finds it and shares it. 

erheil
erheil

This is some of the funniest work related shit I've read in a while. Thanks for the laughs.

Jim McDonald
Jim McDonald

My second biggest peeve on LinkenIn is the single click endorsement. Like most people, I don't truly know the majority of my connections, so how in the hell could I possibly know whether or not John Jacob Jingleheimer Schmidt knows about Multi-level Marketing? In my humble opinion, that has to be the most useless function on the site. End of rant.

AngeliqueDuff
AngeliqueDuff

Always a pleasure to read your rants...makes me chuckle out loud.

 Loved this one Erika.

You're so right - Canned one-click requests are lame. 

{{{ BTW, can you UN-CONNECT with someone on LinkedIN? No one has {yet} pissed me off enough to search for the function.}}}

I was disappointed when LinkedIn added one-click endorsements - to me it seemed like a watered-down recommendation, and the way they do it - recommend 4 people "does Mr X have this random skill" is even worse!

I'll be teaching a "social media for photographers" course at college this term - looking forward to sharing with them your blog post about LinkedIn that will pique their interest, not bore them with statistics and how-tos (admittedly, which I have been known to write myself on occasion).


AndyMathisDVM
AndyMathisDVM

What is LinkedIn?  *looks around . . . tries to keep a straight face. . . fails* 

I don't use LinkedIn much, but you are so  right.  Now pinterest notifications- those make me want to stab someone with a fork.   After a gazillion notifications in my inbox  about brown butter, bacon, and chocolate chip cookies . . . turned. them. off. 

JasonMillerCA
JasonMillerCA

Best advice of the day "Buttons that are easy to click shouldn’t always be clicked." Nice post Erika. PS. I hate drum circles too.


Jeff Miller1
Jeff Miller1

Erika, you think too much. Lighten up. You also write like a 14 year old boy.

RobertBajak
RobertBajak

Erika, I don't know you from Adam. I've dropped a few f-bon mots on your wall and clicked "Like" a lot, but that doesn't rate a professional relationship. I wouldn't dream of asking you to become one of my network fodder minions. We would at least have to had met face to face, swilled some single malt and discussed the spiraling entropy of common sense and manners in today's professional world. Then, I would politely ask if we could be net buds.
What ever happened to romance in the professional world? Just because the internet is fast doesn't mean we have to be "Wham! Bam! You're in my contacts, ma'am!"
Bravo! Great slap! Flame the haters and full speed ahead!
Illegitimi non carborundum 

Todd Le
Todd Le

The arrogant and condescending tone of your rant is such a big turn off!  You need to learn how to be humble and modest as you will realize sooner than later that you are not important as you think you are.  In this economy, people just want to expand their network, get to know new people or just want friends in their field.

Some people are guilty of what you have described, out of laziness or ignorance, but the bottom line is most people's intention is just wanting to connect.  So stop being anal and snobby about the silly etiquette.  Learn to be kind and understanding as karma is b-tch,

docsheldon1
docsheldon1

Thanks, Erika, for a wondrous rant on one of my pet peeves! I'll sometimes just delete/refuse invites from unknown people out of hand, but occasionally, I'll check out their profile to see if maybe my 60 y/o gray matter has gone on retreat (it wouldn't be first time). When it's obvious that some MLMer is just trying to get to my list, I may go all snarky and respond with a WTF and suggest an unnatural act. They're probably too dense to be affected - I'm sure it's all a numbers game - but at least *I* feel better! LinkedIn definitely needs to stop sending one-click default messages.

I'm really pleased that a friend recommended your blog to me today - I love your style! Rest assured, though, that I won't send you a connection request... I don't handle rejection well.

Susan Woolner
Susan Woolner

Great Rant! It made my day. My person pet peeve is the LinkedIn users who use the email engine to "find additional connections" by connecting with anyone who is in their address book. Unfortunately, that LinkedIn tool is a "stupid tool" because it still sends invites to people who are ALREADY connections. I usually send back the email request that says "I'm already a connection but I'm beginning to regret it!" 

JustKimOnline
JustKimOnline

Love this post! I recently "cleaned up" my connections. I see so much how having 500+ connections is GREAT for business..."I'll take 500 connections for $1000 Alex" ONLY if they are 500 connections that are beneficial.  I guard LinkedIn acceptance like I guard giving and receiving business cards (I don't promote "bonfire networking") - I want to know why we are connecting and quite frankly should we connect.  

Tinu
Tinu

I hug this post and all its cuss words. This is why I grew to hate LinkedIn. When I do use it, my favorite game is to make my connection request with people I already know as inappropriate as possible. The goal is for them to be laughing uncontrollably in some public setting. 

JosephRatliff
JosephRatliff

I wrote a post once titled "Please Don't Make Me Sorry I Connected With You" that addresses the other end of this idea you wrote about Erika.

Once someone does manage to get through the "filter"... I'm surprised by the number of people that screw up those initial first few contacts with the person they were trying to connect with.  http://josephratliff.com/blog/connected-with-you/

I think we just have to think a little bit, I try to use the same respect as I would when meeting a stranger "offline."  Because, well, you are doing the same thing online when using Linkedin or other tools to connect.

Just because the Internet allows us to connect to anybody quickly, doesn't mean it's a shortcut for relationship building.

Great article Erika. :)

AssistantNikki
AssistantNikki

I'm so happy to come across someone who feels the way I do about this. Apparently, we're in the majority because most people prefer the easy way out. 

SarahMcK
SarahMcK

Hell yeah!!  I read this tip a while ago in a book on networking (granted, it was a little less *bitch*).  Made perfect sense and ever since then I've been very very careful to connect, not collect friends.  And here I was just thinking I was a little snitty getting annoyed with people connecting with the standard linkedin.  Thanks for letting me be a bitch !  p.s.  just discovered you today - big fan  already... may be in touch for coffee (If you do virtual flat whites in Sydney?)

erinread
erinread

AMEN! I put the words "Don't use the default invite" at the top of my profile and STILL get the default invite from far too many people.

I even sent messages to a few folks who invited me to connect with a "Tell me how we'll both benefit" message. One person actually had the gall to wrote back "just wanted to stay in touch - no benefits." But I don't know this person, so could we *stay* in touch?

I'm running a training session on LinkedIn for college students in a few weeks and will be referencing this post.

seamlessmoves
seamlessmoves

I'm so glad to have this article as a resource for future LinkedIn "monkeys." Next, let's get LinkedIn to stop suggesting random skills for which they want us to endorse each other. These things aren't even mentioned in our profiles, yet our contacts feel obligated to endorse us for underwater basketweaving because they think everyone else is! I have news for you, LinkedIn: you're not Facebook (and we like that about you). Stop trying to be!

C_Pappas
C_Pappas

I am very careful about who I accept into my network and very much hate the canned LinkedIn text that people just dont delete. Takes 2 seconds! Lots of people I know just hit accept all the way down the list but I dont. In fact someone called me out on it recently and said 'well I cant see your email since you didnt accept my request'. My response 'I have no idea who you are and never met you so until that happens, I will decline' thank you very much. Im glad I do this because when you are job hunting, people will call your connections. If your connected and the person cant recall who you are, that will just look bad.

ShareCatcher
ShareCatcher

I am one of those fortunate ones who doesn't see many LinkedIn requests. I could never randomly send requests to people I haven't communicated with on some level, even if there are plenty of people I'd like to get to know better. Unfortunately, I did get snared once by the generic send from the 'People You Might Know' page. When i realized the requests were sent without me being able to submit  a message, I was mortified.  "Treat others as you would like to be treated," is my motto, and I too hate the generic message. I quickly sought forgiveness and was.  BTW, I do like the tip David Petherick made in another comment about utilizing Evernote with the You Might Know page to make a a more personable LinkedIn connection afterward. 

bdorman264
bdorman264

Uh, I thought you were supposed to do it because everyone is doing it....I will delete my request....


Obviously I'm not near as picky or popular as you, but I also don't really give it that much thought either. I actually do have some standards and want to somewhat 'know' the people, but for the way I'm using LinkedIn right now, it really doesn't matter. I've got more important things to think about like 'where am I going to eat lunch today' or something serious like that. 


At least we know where you stand on this, huh? I still want to be like you when I grow up though...:). 

leedrozak
leedrozak

Thank you for this. I get requests like that all the time and now I am just going to forward them your article so maybe they finally get the hint. Next you need to bitch slap those who are skills endorse happy.

mmangen
mmangen

Erika, while a very sensitive subject for me too this post made me laugh. I was complaining to a friend the other day how recently I've been getting a number of requests with the default subject changed to "Connect with me to see how I use LinkedIn" and I said something along the lines of "Who the hell told them that was better than the default subject? I imagine they will be one of the jackasses who think it's OK to add me to their email marketing list after I accept their request. No. Thank. You.". 



JamesSchipper
JamesSchipper

Glad you wrote this before my request this morning :-D

Joe Ray1
Joe Ray1

HoooooSheeeeet™!  I'm ready to stand up and bitch slap those sales people who call me, leave 2-3 messages that they want to have me spend 20 minutes with them (or their software guru) listening to their pitch. I think LinkedIn needs a reply button that has the Red Head icon but asks "Why the fuck should I join your circle jerk drumming circle for?" I doubt this will stop them but it may slow them down. Or at least make them laugh. 

Don't some of these requests remind you of birds that land on your table and steel a fry or chip off your plate and then fly off as they shit on your napkin or table top. 

I always leave your posts and comment forums so inspired...thanks Red!

SteveZanini
SteveZanini

OWWWW!!!  Holy shit that one hurt so bad I have red fingers on my cheek.  NOW I would like to say that when you accepted my request to "link" you did ask how I knew you and thankfully the answer struck a chord and you accepted.  POINT BEING I now ask the same question of those who want to link with me,  no reply in 72 hours means they don't really give a fuck and I don't add them.  I am also toying with the idea of reducing my numbers so that my professional network is truly helpful... Any ideas from the other slapped monkeys...Tanks for the leshion (swollen cheek speak)

MitchRezman
MitchRezman

Dec 2012 1000+ LinkedIn connections 45 eCommerce/marketing groups Jan 2013 - 1000+ LinkedIn connections ZERO eCommerce/marketing groups - Note to LinkedIn - I don't want your advice on website optimization, Adwords or SEO because you've never run a fucking eCommerce website. and stop endorsing me for all those skills because I don't know shit from shinola and I certainly don't know you - thank you Erika for your succinct observations about LinkedIn. 

LisaMarieMary
LisaMarieMary

This was the planned bitch slap you warned of? And I rocked it, sending you a note? Awesome! Though I must admit that an hour or so before that, my "you might know these people" page popped up, and I clicked on people that I know and I know that they know me. This is the page that doesn't give the option for a personal message. So I'm half guilty/half innocent this morning. Guess that means you only get to smack half my face. ;)

BrettGrischo
BrettGrischo

Aww crap.  Guilty as charged but only because I respect branding experts that do public speaking, write professionally and swear like a drunken sailor.  I'm looking forward to our meet up in April to validate why are you so lucky to now be linked in to me!  Cheers! 

David Petherick
David Petherick

He he. Love it. Bang on the money. Thanks for putting it so fucking elegantly.

richmackey
richmackey

I had to look back - I am mortified. I sent you a generic connection note. No cleverness. No rationale or reason. Though, we did talk often enough face to face when I sent it. Still not an excuse. I feel like a heel. :(  (Thank goodness our relationship isn't based solely on that invite.)

*Raises hand* I solemnly swear I will never send another LinkedIn request with the standard, boring, horrific language LinkedIn provides automatically.  Thanks for the slap.

vsellis
vsellis

Nice, as I'm reading this I get a strange LinkedIn request. 

Important note, there are occasions where LinkedIn recommends people for you to connect to (some you'll know some you won't). If you're on the mobile app and click the + to connect with someone (let's assume you actually know them) it doesn't give you an opportunity to to customize the message it just sends the request. 

LinkedIn needs to fix that but still...

I'm with you Erika, I hate the generic message but unless someone realizes they app works that way they might not have been given a choice. Probably more forgivable if you know them than if not. Either way, I've stopped using the app to connect with anyone to keep me from screwing it up.

Latest blog post: burning-horizon

JHerbert
JHerbert

My bad..... Lol Nice bitch slap, even though I feel like Rocky after getting pummeled by Drago. Lol Thanks Drago :-)

josephlogan
josephlogan

Quick story on that: gave a talk for some B school undergrads at CU. Kid strolled in with a skateboard, baggy shorts, sideways ball cap, and some nascent shag on his chin. I jumped to conclusions and wrote him off as a slacker. When I got home, I had a LinkedIn request from him that told me 1. who he was; 2. where we met, and 3. what we talked about at the end of the course. 

Blown. Away. I remembered him the next time I spoke there, and I made some introductions to help him with his career. His was the most professional request I have received from CU, and as a result I'm happy to help him in his career. Kid looks good in a suit, too.

AnaPhylaxis
AnaPhylaxis

Amen, sista! You have such a knack for precisely articulating the ridiculousness that goes through my mind every time I get a LinkedIn request. Your post should be required reading for every.single.professional. I know I'll be sharing it with those who I think rock in my world. Thank you!!!

donnafeldman
donnafeldman

Thank you, thank you, thank you, best how to use LInkedIn ever, it's going on my resource list for my next LinkedIn presentation. Did I say thank you?

JoeDeGiorgio
JoeDeGiorgio

I will on occasion make the attempt to connect with someone I don't know. I actually did it yesterday, I found someone through a blog comment who I thought to be interesting and asked to connect. The idea to craft your own message is a no brainer! If someone doesn't know you, you have to let them know why it's a good idea to connect. LinkedIn 101.

I may not get the connection, but I know I took the time and effort to separate myself  from the sellers and the spammers. Erika, I'll be sure to post a few comments here and get to know you before I even THINK of sending a request. :)  Great post.

uemike
uemike

I answer every LinkedIn request from an unknown the same way: "Hi Thanks for connecting!  How can I help you out?"

90% of those who respond say something to the effect of "Just trying to expand my network."  

So let me get this straight, you're just trying to get your number one step closer to the '500+ connections' milestone?  Great! Glad I could be of assistance with this.

Jessica Bolanos Vanegas
Jessica Bolanos Vanegas

<--- WCE piggy hat comrade aka "stalker", although I like to refer to myself as well researched. ;) Thanks for this post. I'm not someone who randomly adds people but it's interesting to get a blunt take of a professional speaker's POV, as I do add WCE speakers and mentors to my network occasionally if they 'fit' in my world. I'll make sure to add all of the above from now on. My bad. Good advice. :)

Carrie Drephal
Carrie Drephal

I have started using the reply feature to send the requesters a WTH? message blatantly stating that I have no reason to accept their invitation unless they can explain to me what good it will do me to accept them. Most don't respond, and if they don't, they obviously don't want to be a professional connection that badly. Not only that, but just because we work together and it's company policy to add everyone in the company to your connections doesn't mean I HAVE to accept your request. You can sit in my queue and rot. I have even removed both of my current bosses due to the fact that they are not helping my professional network or career but rather hindering it. They have no place there. 

dotcalm
dotcalm

I'm being besieged and beseeched by so many Multi-Level Marketers, Insurance Salesmen, and Bankers I could vomit! They don't know me or even WANT to KNOW me, they want to SELL to me!

MLMers see I that I'm an entrepreneur and want me to sell THEIR product - guess what? I'm busy working here!!! I own a company - I don't want to work for theirs and I don't have time to promote people who won't be able to do the same for me. I like to support other ENTREPRENEURS - which, by my definition means: "Only me, God and the government can shut me down!"

Guess what insurance sellers and bankers? Sending me a stupid generic LinkedIn message tells me you want to suck off my list... no thanks! I value my list and don't let my friends/clients/colleagues get spammed 'cause I'm too lazy to protect them. You can't have my list - for any price!

Thanks for being brave enough to call these lazy bastard, list-sucking fools out! (and thanks for the birthday book too!)

Sarah Wilde
Sarah Wilde

I have preached that same thing to people on Facebook.  The modeling industry is rife with sycophants and every week I get friend requests from people I don't know, haven't heard of and have no desire to know.  I used to "be nice" and accept the requests, then I employed "Sandbox Rules" - it's MY sandbox and I don't have to let people play in it AND I can kick people out whenever I want.  They can't play with my toys, drink my lemonade or eat my cookies... they have to go home to their own yard.

BAMcopywriting
BAMcopywriting

I'm guilty of never logging into or updating my LinkedIn. I know that's a bad thing too... maybe I should send you a request! Erika, will you be my connection on LinkedIn? I don't bite (unless you ask me to)

DanielleEBowers
DanielleEBowers

That was the bitch slap heard around the LinkedIn world.  I think there are still echoes rebounding over the Andes.  What you are complaining about is why I dislike LinkedIn.  The generic requests make me froth at the mouth almost as much as auto-dms on Twitter.

HeatherT
HeatherT

The generic Linkedin requests KILL me but what's even worse is the form letter from someone I've never heard of where all they've done is change my name at the top and then proceed to tell me about their business and why they might be of service to me (i.e; why I should hire them).  Eff off.  I hire people I know and like and trust.  Period.  

George Morris
George Morris

For real. Just last night I sorted through 27 invites. 90% of them I had no info on who they were. I replied to each with a "how do I fucking know you?" ... But I was a bit nicer than that.

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  7. […] LinkedIn is the Office After-Work party, nothing too crazy and adult beverages and hor d’oeuvres or petits fours may be involved.  Everyone is still in office attire, is ready and willing to glad-hand the masses, do some networking.  There might be a couple people making out in the coatroom or greasing wheels with dirty money, but ultimately everyone is just looking to get home, kick off their stilettos or wingtips and relax.  And same hint as before – send an introductory message; Erika Napoletano covered that very well. […]

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